It is at times like this that I wish it were possible to wash out a portion of one’s brain.
The unfortunate thing is that these graphic illustrations are included in “sex education” in some parts of the nation.
As I consider the young people I most care about, I am prompted to ponder what I wish they would learn about sex in a school setting.
1) I would like for them to be taught that they have reproductive “bits,” the age at which it becomes biologically responsible to use those bits, and the age and circumstances when use of those bits become correlated with happiness and joy (e.g., not poor, not diseased, not dead, not abused).
2) I would like for them to be taught what happens when bits are used casually and without protection (poverty, disease, death, abuse).
3) I would like for them to be taught that the reason their “bits” bring great pleasure and urgency is because we evolved to reproduce, even when there wasn’t going to be sex education, literacy, or any social safety “net.”
4) I would like for them to be taught the reasons why society developed marriage as a way to protect the rising generation.
5) I would like for them to be taught that it is possible to thwart nature, so long as the teaching included information about the risks attendant with thwarting nature (e.g., abortion, birth control, fertility treatment).
6) I would like for them to be taught that one’s sense of sexual identity (intensity of desire, category of desired mate) can be influenced by biological factors beyond their control.
7) I would like for them to be taught that sex is profoundly impactful, and casual sex can be disruptive to their sense of self, independent of religious belief. Perhaps in that context, I would like for them to be taught why there are laws that designate sex before the age of [insert local legal age] as rape.
I would not want young people I most care about to learn the following:
1) The fifty ways to use their bits to titillate themselves and others for the pure purpose of titillation. That’s what the Internet and porn magazines are for, should the individual be so inclined. There are helpful online resources like PlugLust.com that help young women and also men to use sex toys safely. Sexual exploration should both be a satiating and safe journey all throughout. Though I wouldn’t mind the young ones being informed which Internet activities and purchases would be considered criminal.
2) The myriad ways their bits can be used to facilitate sexual satiation in non-traditional unions. Again, that’s what the Internet is for. I wouldn’t be adverse to student groups that help ensure sexuality in non-traditional unions is informed (e.g., protecting youth from predators in the non-traditional union they are considering).
I’m sure my lines in the sand aren’t exactly where everyone else would wish to draw the lines, and I am influenced by my milieu, which includes employment by a federal agency where non-traditional unions are celebrated and protected.
Assuming you would draw the line in the sand differently, what would you change and why?